Friday, April 24, 2009

And It's Not Even Mothers Day

Good Morning, y'all!

Forgive me for not posting in over a week. It's been hectic at Casa de Phat Mama. Alas, not much funny has been happening.

But in the last two nights, something has happened that I had to write about.

Our son, rebel boy, has moved back home. That happened about a month ago. To give a little history - We moved to North Carolina, for the second time, in October of last year. Colt didn't want to move so after a month here with us, chose to move back to where our families & his girlfriend live, in Illinois & Wisconsin.

(Yes, I'm fully aware that the girlfriend was the -real- reason, family be damned!)

Allowing him to leave us at 17 was devastating. But we knew it was the best choice. There were lessons for him to learn that only going would teach him. Another aspect of it being so hard for us was that he was ill for a very long time and will have issues for the rest of his life.

He finally returned to us after six months.

Last night, he and I were talking & he said to me: "We make fun of you and Dad a lot, but honestly, the love you two have is what I dream of, with my wife, when I get married. You two are really awesome, just to watch, because the love is actually visible in a million ways."
I could have cried.

Tonight, after work, I took him to Waffle House. (Yes, we are rednecks.) And on the way home, somehow death was brought up. I told him that after caring for elderly people, I didn't really think I wanted to live to a very old age.

He replied, "I think I would just die if I lost you. Not unless I'm married to a woman I love so much, someone a lot like you.. then I could maybe get through it. Yanno Mama, when men are looking for the girl they want to marry, they look for someone as great as their Mom, if they have a good one.. and I'm lucky, I have the best Mom. I just can't stand the thought, to even think about you dying. Sometimes I wish you were a really shitty Mom, like yours.. so it wouldn't be such a big deal."

I could only laugh and blink back the tears - realizing that my rebel child is finally growing up. That the day I wished for has come, my son telling me that I did it right.


Paula said...

Ugh.. you made me cry! I cannot wait for those words from my son one day too. I pray I get to hear them. He really is such a good kid. I am so blessed. It sounds like you are too, Mama.

Love ya. *hugs*

Holy Crappers said...

You've done good !


Peggy said...

What a little teen-aged dream you have there!

I don't think I've ever heard such sweet words from a teen-aged boy! You are one lucky Mama...and quite obviously a really good one too!

otherworldlyone said...

Glad you're back.

Sweet kid. I'll take parenting advice from you anytime if it'll guarantee a moment like that.

zelzee said...

I am in total awe that he came to this realization before kids!

Good job, mom!

Phat Mama said...

Heya Paula honey, always nice to see you here! I'm sure you'll hear them someday, you're awesome. :)

#1 Thanks!

Peggy - He is so handsome. :) And a great kids, thanks for the compliment!

wordlyone - Missed you too! Sometimes, I just can't think of anything to write. I need to work on that! And it's been a stupid kind of busy around here. I'll give you tips anytime!

zelzee - I know, right! LOL I figured I would have to wait until forever to hear that from him!

Prunella Jones said...

Oy vey, reading that made me a little verklempt! What a lovely son you've raised. Thank you for adding a man like that to the world. When he gets married his wife will be one lucky girl.

Phat Mama said...

Awww thanks Pru! Um, what does verklempt mean? Educate me, sexy!

Cretin said...

He is a great kid even if I sometimes wanna knock him down :)

Smart Mouth Broad said...

I can think of nothing better in life than to have our children tell us what your son told you. Bravo!

Girl Interrupted said...

Yay! You're back! :)

Would you have any objections if I date your son in ... oh, I dunno, 8 years or so?

You're both equally lucky to have each other xxx

Comedy Goddess said...

That's the best eulogy, no wait, I mean that's the best statement of love from a son to his mother ever!

I love your profile page, you are pretty darn funny! Thanks for showing up on my blog. Hope to see you again soon.

Maelstrom said...

Damn, and he didn't even hit you up for cash after the compliments?

Comedy Goddess said...

Come on over to my place and pick up your award from me!

Phat Mama said...

Cretin - Hi Loverface! I know you could read more into this post since you've known me for years - thanks for reading my blog, Love.

SMB - You are so right. :) And thanks for adding me!

GI! I'm back, will try to post tonight or tomorrow. Missed you. :)

Maelstrom - We took him shopping today. It set us back $400. *le fuck*

Comedy Goddess - Thanks for coming over and reading! I have to say, when I read the eulogy thing, I cracked up! I'm purty funny but even I wouldn't have thought that up!

Oh, and whaatt?? An award?? Dashing over right now!

sista #2 said...

Waffle House rocks!

Job well done on your son!
Wish he could straighten my daughter out.


honkeie2 said...

wooohoooo! Waffle house....I wish they had them in Jersey. I am a displaced redneck living in the north lol.
I hope my boys will someday say this. Me and my wife are as in love now....10 years we were when we first meet. Nothing is perfect but then again if it was it would be boring.
I also have worked with the elderly and pray that if I do get old I am a functional old person...and not what I have seen in Florida or the nursing home I used to work at.

Vodka Mom said...

that touched me. I love the moment that they look at you- REALLY look at you, and begin to understand the true meaning of love.


Phat Mama said...

sista #2 - Love the Waffle House soo much! And all the gay people work there so I can eat my grits and see if my flip flops match my bag, all at once!

(Totally not bashing on the gays there, folks.. some of my closest friends are gay/les)

Heya, honke - Thanks for stopping in and leaving comments on a few posts! Glad to have you hanging out at Phat Mama's place. I'm so glad to hear you and your wife are still in love, ten years later - that is all too rare in todays world, sadly enough. And yes, working with the elderly takes a special person, for sure!

Vodka Mom - I only saw this morning that it looks like you've returned and Lord, I hope so - so many people adore you and feel as if they come to have a cuppa coffee with you each day, when they visit your blog.

I have no idea what happened or is going on currently but know that you have so many friends, right here.